Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

Tuesday, April 14, 2020

What Kind of Parents Created Me?


So...I really got into creating online because of the ability to share the interesting people and experiences that I was coming across. I have some images that I don't usually show. They're always on my mind and will accompany my other posts. We'll see what happens.

This is my father Earl alongside one of my favorite image of his, a block printed painting known as "The Line". I found a photograph of the image and recreated it on the computer and got a large print made for his birthday. You can't tell here, but he's really happy about it. :).

I'm actually reminded of "The Line" as I see places like Wal-Mart and Ralph's with huge queues of people stretching around the block for some canned goods because yeah, everything is crazy right now.



The other half of my major influence is my mother, Shirley. All my life I knew her as an opera singer and professor of music at Florida A&M University. More than that, I knew her as an educator and a student. She was always on the hunt for knowledge and was willing to share it to everyone in her environment. Also, that's not a college student in the pictures, btw. She also taught young ones in few moments of "spare" time. Interestingly enough, she was strict, but never pushed the arts on me as the end all and be all of life. In fact, when I expressed interests in computers and video games, she was all for it even though it really wasn't her ballpark.

Dr Shirley showed me how to fight the fight to get to where you want to be. How to get around the obstacles. And how to get your music heard.

Now you know.

- Mr Benja -

Sunday, February 2, 2020

Hey, Ari. Comedians Should Cross ALL Lines, But...

Being that I have a mind that pushes boundaries, I like to think I get comedy. Aside from being fucking hilarious at dinner parties, I did three summers worth of standup at the ACME Comedy Club in Minnesota. (Shout out to Nick Swardson who showed me what it means to be made of puuuurreeee eeeevilllll and to Victor Varnado who showed me what it meant to embrace the "fuck it" attitude.) Also, it's healthy for us to look at all sides of an issue.

Now before I continue, CLICK HERE TO EDUCATE YOURSELF ON THE STORY. You can also check his Instagram to see his statement on the matter.

But calling him right wrong isn't my point here. It's about crossing lines.

I'll start with this quote from the legend George Carlin, which may or may not be from him. He hasn't responded to my tweets, so I can't verify this part.



Okay. So was Ari Shaffir simply crossing lines that should be crossed? Was he just trolling? Because he really does troll people, but not like this.

At face value, line-crossing in comedy is fine. The craft is not necessarily about being "funny" or acceptable. The comic should be out there picking fights, ruffling feathers, making people think, pushing buttons, and even bombing in the presence of innocent civilians. (See what I did there?)

I mean that. For example, here are popular topics that comics SHOULD broach:
  1. The sanctity of life
  2. Race
  3. Rape
  4. Religion
  5. Pregnancy
  6. Prostrate cancer
  7. Gender identity
  8. Sex organs
  9. Murder
  10. Floridians
  11. Politics
  12. Physical differences
  13. Joke thieves
  14. Denial of mental health problems
  15. Culture
  16. Economic status
  17. Social class
  18. Failed marriages
  19. Anything that has ever appeared in People magazine
  20. Black people with thin lips
  21. Overweight freerunners
  22. Your mother (also known as yo mama)
  23. George Clooney
  24. People that browse the hashtag #crystalsforsale
  25. And EVERYTHING else we hold sacred
It's all on the table. That's how it's supposed to be.

But the question is... HOW ARE YOU CROSSING THOSE LINES AND WHY?

Are you helping anyone? Did you make anyone think? Were new opinions formed? Did a reasonable dialog come up? Was it worth it?

See, this whole situation annoys me because I honestly can't stand our war on comedy. We're are a bit soft nowadays. We need comedy now more than ever. I want people to go outside without having anxiety attacks. Unfortunately, we've got Ari Shaffir going around making the situation worse. Even shock outlet Opie Radio had to call him out.



Pretty much.

At its best, comedy like this is lazy. At its worst, it's dangerous. Comedy is a powerful weapon that should only to be wielded by licensed skeptics, cynics, outcasts, and socially-malnourished intellects.

But wait. You don't think bad comedy can be dangerous? Remember the time Ari spoke about showing his privates to a six year old girl? Ehhhh...come on, dude. Do better.



So regardless of my personal feelings or my thoughts on celebrity worship, the "joke" failed because it was delivered improperly. It didn't help the case for art. It just seemed like some guy channeling his inner jerk. I don't know, maybe his career implosion can be used to open the door for better post-death comedy.

Finally, while I didn't want to come on here and stan for Kobe. I have much respect for the Black Mamba, so RIP to Kobe Bryant, his daughter Gianna, and everyone else that died.
Click here to learn more about the lives that were lost.

Be well, people.

 - Mr Benja -

Monday, December 3, 2018

It Rained Here In LA A Few Days Ago. It Never Does That.

It rained here in LA a few days ago. 
It made me reminisce.

Everyone was talking about it
Rain doesn't usually fall out here in any appreciable amount.
People were getting ready.
Target sold out of umbrellas.
Then it happened.
The rain poured down.
Right on cue, people got a kick out of talking about the flooded roads and stinky runoff near Ralph's.
People crashed on the highway.
*Sigh*

Unfortunately, I hate talking about the weather.
It's always been pointless to me. 
Who the fuck cares?
We aren't farmers that need to bring the cows in.
No talk of weather has ever very useful or entertaining or useful to me.
LA Traffic (aka LA weather) is only mildly useful to discuss.
Waze and a glance at weather.com pretty much takes care of that discussion.

But...the weather does one thing extremely well.
It creates an instant connection. 

My dad used to start conversations by talking about the weather.
He would try this with me.
I would get frustrated when he did this though.
I always wanted to talk about some deep aspect of the socio-political landscape. 
Or maybe I'd try to talk about some heavy art world shit.
Well, he'd been through enough deep shit.
The weather was something easy for my dad.

Shit. 

I wouldn't mind talking about the weather one more time.

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